Saturday, February 26, 2011
Fatty Dedications: To all my sistergirls at the cross roads
video from Youtube.com (NoDoubtVevo)
Oh Gwen! this is REAL RAP RAW (as Kevin Harts alter ego Choc Drop would say)
These days it seems as if there is so much pressure on a young sister. So many expectations from family friends and even the government to do one thing or another. To live one way or another. Growing up in this era that has handed women the right to choose...everything. Yet, as the scripture says "to whom much is given much is required".
My girlfriends and I are all 20- something beauties of all races and creeds, some of us went to college and some of us didnt, some of us have kids and some of us dont, we have all traveled different paths but all have come to this very point where we ask ourselves "What do I do now"
It seems like there are only two roads that go in different directions either have kids, make a home and be content, being a mother and a wife or become career and success driven. Then some of us just want it all, The great job, the great husband , the beautiful children, but that picture seems like more of a fairytale. How does something like that even come into fruition, somethings gotta give either your career or your home. How do you pick?
We each take our turns bouncing ideas off of one another. My girlfriend asked me with a straight face, "Should I take my current relationship seriously and just make a home with this brother, or should I leave him in the dust and focus on my career"? Another asks "Should I move to another city"?... and then there's this one, I'm almost thirty and I don't think I want kids does that make me weird?
Who knows what a girl should be focused on at this point?
Only time will tell...and for my 20-something sisters that are trying to find the answers I say "have no fear, at least you've got a lot of company while you're standing at the crossroads"
#Iwasjustthinking
xo!
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i was just telling my boss a month ago... [our generation of women] are gonna be the 50yr old marriage generation... sucks to even admit but twenty something men are even more focused on their bachelor life, don't have the means to support a wife/family and/or are not willing to submit to another person due to so many wounds from us women. us women are so wounded we are trying to deflect our pain or get it completely healed before we settle down... we are all in so much debt that we dont want to add any more baggage to the pot, and its true we aint nobodies 50's housewife material; we have dreams, goals and career pursuits... (we cant depend on anyone to do what it is we need done in life... so we do it ourselves.. we have to) a family limits those hoops. its unfortunate but even i (a SERIOUS hopeless romantic) have succumb to the fact that if God were to lay my husband in my lap, i wouldnt know what to do with him. my "isolation cell" called work life has kept me out of the habit of socializing, and kept me in the mode of business... so where is the love in all of that? the last thing i want is a "loveless" relationship until death. <--literally. #imjussayin.... its rough out there. the battlefield of the heart is gruesome and subconsciously i think we all might be trying to avoid yet ANOTHER disappointment in terms of relationships (Mother Father Sister Brother Uncle Grandfather, Best Friend, Traitor, Boyfriend, Cheat, Girlfriend, Employer, Government, Authority... the list can go on forever)
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